A Short Note
I was once very pissed off at someone I have really been close with. Because of what he said. What he said disregarded my presence, my values, and my abilities.
Today, I am pissed off at myself because I felt I did the same thing to him. Not intentionally, not intending to hurt, nor disregarding. Things just came out so naturally from my mouth, when I didn't mean to disregard him at most. I wanna apologise to him here, Sorry.
Come to think of it, I think maybe he didn't intend to hurt my feelings at that incident. And I figure out, maybe, because we are so close, we tend to compare ourselves with each other, building the competition, or invisible rivalry between ourselves.
Competition brings improvement, but i think rivalry is bad for friendships. Rivals are not true friends.
Sorry, but honestly, I respect you highly.
I am not sure if frienship like this is healthy/positive, but I am very sure he will always be my close and true friend. Always.
DO you have friendships like this too?
Today, I am pissed off at myself because I felt I did the same thing to him. Not intentionally, not intending to hurt, nor disregarding. Things just came out so naturally from my mouth, when I didn't mean to disregard him at most. I wanna apologise to him here, Sorry.
Come to think of it, I think maybe he didn't intend to hurt my feelings at that incident. And I figure out, maybe, because we are so close, we tend to compare ourselves with each other, building the competition, or invisible rivalry between ourselves.
Competition brings improvement, but i think rivalry is bad for friendships. Rivals are not true friends.
Sorry, but honestly, I respect you highly.
I am not sure if frienship like this is healthy/positive, but I am very sure he will always be my close and true friend. Always.
DO you have friendships like this too?
posted by Gooman at
1:26 AM
4 Comments:
Hey gooman..
It's just an undeniable fact that humans are competitive in nature. So don't be too hard on yourself and your close friend. It all boils down to the correct/postive attitude.
A tension was built between me and a 'competitor' when we were in lower secondary due to all the competition in almost everything..'the invisible rivalry' you called it..We talked about it and we've became best friends since! Although we are miles apart now, we still feel the need to be better one. Unlike previously, this subtle competition is giving us motivation and encouragement.
The most important thing is to acknowledge each other's strength and weaknesses because no one is perfect. My suggestion is : don't compare, stay positive and be yourself! =)
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Anonymous, at 8:21 AM
anonymous:
thanks for ur advice!
I guess at some point, I have taken the competition in a negative way, which causes conflicts to happened sometimes.
I totally agree with u, being ownself is the most important thing! =)
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Gooman, at 2:05 PM
Rivalry under covers is never healthy, but like anonymous said, if you and your friend are open and transparent about it, surely there'll be a way to separate friendship from business. Take care Ah Goo!
By
Anonymous, at 8:47 PM
.mei:
thanks everything is fine! we are fine too now! =)
By
Gooman, at 7:35 PM
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